Saturday, August 18, 2007

Decisions

You know how everyone has an opinion? 


What I want to know is what the heck is everyones problem with Dad! and I making the conscious decision that Rito is going to be an only child? 

For the last couple months Dad! and I have discussed whether or not Rito will have a sibling. At first we thought that we would in another year or two try for another baby. Recently though we have come to the decision that one child is what is right for our little family. We put a lot of thought into this and have our reasons for wanting an only child and some are listed here: 

  • I (Mamamama) am an only child. Did I ever wish for a brother or sister? Yes, when I was 7 I wanted a little brother. The novelty of that idea wore off. Do I regret not having a sibbling? Nope. 

  • Dad! has a younger brother. Did he get any enjoyment out of his brother as a kid? Not really. In fact they didn't get along too well until Dad! was out on his own and they didn't live together anymore. Does he wish Uncle-J was never born? No, but being an only kid would have had it's perks too. 

  • Being an only child was great. I had an opportunity to travel overseas with my parents, and they always took me out with them to nice places because one child was "easy to handle" in public. 

  • People feel that kids need sibblings to play with, I don't believe that. I was forced to make friends and be outgoing to keep myself occupied. 

  • With less children, my Mom and Dad could afford to have me in sports and music lessons. This may sound lame but now at days kids activities are both time consuming and very expensive. Juggling between a couple kids could prove to be impossible with multiple children. 

  • I like to work part time. With more then one, I have to give up what I do for a living and I worked long and hard to get where I am (and I only work 2 times a week). Call me selfish, but I like to have my own spending money and help out with household expenses. 

There are many other reasons, but what kills me is when friends, family and co-workers all weigh in on the fact that they think having an only child is the wrong decision or selfish. I am not advocating for ALL families to have only one child, do what is best for you. But for the McSleepy household, this is likely the right decision.

Seriously, what gives?

9 comments:

dog mama said...

WHat THE? Okay, although I don't have an exact quote or anything, I know for a fact that within the last two months you have eluded to having another child. In fact, I often wondered if you or Rhonda would be the first in Mom's group to be pregnant. No, it's not wrong, no it's not selfish, but hey, you are way too funny to not procreate more than once, if for nothing else to have something to for me to read about?

Sleepynita said...

Like, I said we batted it about for quite some time now..... and although if I did get pregnant it would be a welcome surprise, we are not exactly setting ourselves up to get pregnant again..... Call it "calculated avoidance".

Sleepynita said...

It is also funny to think it is the OTHER Rhonda that got pregnant first....

dog mama said...

WHAT THE? I didn't know anyone from Mom's group was knocked up already?! Anyone else that I've missed. I never see the other Rhonda so I guess how would I know. I guess we need to have more nights of sin so we can catch up on all the gossip.

dog mama said...

As a pharmacist I have to advise you early withdrawl is not a recognized effective method of birth control...

Carbon said...

Very personal decision, people should mind their own business is what I say. It's fine if others have an opinion on the matter, as long as they don't push it on others.

Sleepynita said...

You are right, it is a personal decision. It just amazes me how many people think they need to tell that "it's wrong" or "You will change your mind when he bigger". Maybe so, but until then it is our decision and other peples little guilt trips make ME feel bad.

Blah.

Chris said...

Totally a personal decision. I'm an only child. I have no understanding of what it's like to have a sibling. Which is why I'm a little nervous about having our second child. I don't know what my daughter is in for!

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